Sorry seems to be the hardest word…. for people-pleasers not to say! If you’re familiar with saying yes when you want to say no then I imagine you’re familiar with saying sorry when someone walks into you in the supermarket, or before you let the restaurant know they got your food wrong. So why do you keep overapologising - and how do you stop saying sorry all the time?

Sex is one of the most intimate things we can experience but for people-pleasers, it can be another place you lose yourself. Not in the throes of passion - but in self-silencing, self-sacrificing, and going along with things you don’t want to.

You might not call it people-pleasing but maybe you’ve gone along with sex that didn’t feel quite right, said yes out of guilt, or found yourself having ‘casual’ sex just to feel wanted - only to feel disconnected or unsure afterwards. This post explores how people-pleasing shows up in the bedroom, the deeper reasons behind it, and how you can begin to come back to your body, get clearer on what feels right for you, and stop performing or second-guessing just to keep the peace

For a long time, I never thought I was a people-pleaser.
I just thought I was being kind. The one people could rely on. And thinking that felt good, because if we’re honest, who doesn’t want to be the one people know they can turn to when they need help?

Externally my behaviour suggested I was: Easygoing. Helpful. Laid Back.

Internally I felt: Mentally and Physically Exhausted. Wired. Resentful (but guilty for feeling that way), Anxious, Uncertain. Doubting. Self-conscious. On Edge…like I was stuck in hyper vigilance, on the look out for who, what, where and when I’d be needed and always feeling responsible for making sure everyone else felt ok.

No amount of Mel Robbin telling me to just ‘let them’ would have stopped me spiralling when people-pleaser me received a short sounding text and here’s why it might not work for you either.

Have you ever felt trapped by the expectations of others - like saying no simply isn’t an option? That feeling of not having a choice is at the heart of people-pleasing. This blog explores where this belief come from, and how can you start to break free from it

Do you find yourself constantly seeking reassurance from others? Worrying about how you’ll be perceived.? Approval-seeking is especially common among adults with ADHD.

If you’ve ever thought about therapy but stopped yourself from taking the step, you’re not alone.

So many people hold back, stuck in a loop of doubts, fears, and misconceptions. If you’ve ever wondered, "Is therapy really for me?" or "What if I’m not ‘bad enough’ for therapy?" or “What if the therapist thinks I’m weird?” this blog is for you.

Let’s explore some of the reasons people hesitate and how they might actually be keeping you from living the life you truly want.

If you’ve ever found yourself juggling other people’s needs while your own sit untouched on the sidelines, you might already know you’re a people-pleaser.

But what if those habits are so subtle that even you don’t see them?

There’s overt people-pleasing, the kind we can all spot, and then there’s covert people-pleasing, which is harder to pin down but just as exhausting. Knowing the difference is a game-changer for anyone ready to break free from putting others first all the time.